Timing and Clarity - old posts just making it here now... guess the timing is right.

Timing is everything

Time is one of those elements of life that we have such little control over. When we are young, time seems slow. Every moment has a grandness to it and, of course, the newness quality. As we grow, we see the little moments that slip through hands and the moments that bear fruit to our lives because the moments were right. It may have been that the moments were just right for us to attempt to jump, try to jump or just plain jump. But what happens when your timing is not in sync with those around you. Someone is bound to become unhappy.

Don’t ignore your moments of clarity

I believe your brain allows you to see reality in little glimpses every once in a while. The rest of the time we are all pretty much in our own little worlds or wrapped up in someone else’s.

Heraclitus - he speakes in poem... me not so much.

I ordered three books from amazon.com but only two have shown up. Both are the works of Heraclitus called fragments. True to the time before science ruled the world and books not handy to the common man, Heraclitus spoke in rhythmic phrase and greek, so any english interpretation must be interpreted as so.

Heraclitus - fragment 1

The Word proves
those first hearing it
as numb to understanding
as the ones who have not heard.

Yet all things follow from the Word.

Some, blundering
with what i set before you,
try in vain with empty talk
to separate the essences of things
and say how each thing truly is.

And all the rest make no attempt.
They no more see
how they behave broad waking
than remember clearly
what they did asleep.

Reflection on aging ... yum, gracefully?

As humans, we are at the mercy of our bodies, the vessels that store our souls. As modern day people who run from age, we have medical cures that allow us to defy death. We, as a group, shun the sorrow of the knowledge that death will eventually come. We forget that the success of living is not in the length of time here, but the impact which we make while here. Our ancestors knew this. Some cultures still know this. It is here in the comfort of the country and time in which we live, that we forget. For those of us in our progression of age, the comfort is dwindling. The control we felt when we were young is diluted to the point of non existence. The body affects the mind and back around to the same, sometimes leaving us in unchartered territory for this perspective of life. Life after youth and middle age is as fragile as a babies beginnings. Not a new thought, just wanted to validate it. Guess I feel old today. Ignore the caption on the picture. That's not what this is about. Go forward - don't go back.

Heraclitus and me

I love history and philosophy. Learning about how people lived, made decisions, related to each other, and just in general, lived here together on this planet. For the little I know about Heraclitus, pronounced her-ə-'klī-təs, I feel a connection. I am going to find how different or the same Heraclitus and I may really be. I set myself this challenge of literary adventure.

The auto immune paralysis of everyday living

I don’t think you can go through life without some sort of paralysis. You’re a child and you grow and grow until something in you says "stop growing so fast". Just the experience of constant change is an emotionally exciting time in most people’s lives. Young adulthood has its milestones. Finding a partner, making a family, including animals, working a job. Change and more change. But still, a deceleration of the emotional excitement that comes from experiencing these things as new. Even cleaning the bathroom the first couple years in your own place isn't so bad. It's the next twenty that kill you.
Anyway, so they become farther apart. Until they are no longer propelled by stages of life itself.
You are paraylized within yourself. You must become the catalyst.

Trust Yourself

There is a book called blink by Malcolm Gladwell that talks about how people of rational thought, talk themselves out of trusting their first impressions. Well, that might be oversimplified and my impression of the book.

But, my whole life, I have told myself to trust my instincts.

And then, am not sure that I act on what I believe.

Deal with the Sorrow of Lost Dreams

Dreams - something hoped for.

This is more a statement and a question of how than a writing of any knowledge I think I have. Everyone must put some dreams to rest, at one time or another, if they are lucky enough to live a good amount of time. Dreams that are the what if’s of your life. What if I had done this or what if I had done that. Would I be in a better place in my life than I am right now? You live with your choices until you die. And maybe then some.

Empathy and the missing link

Empathy – understanding of another’s feelings
the ability to identify with and understand somebody else's feelings or difficulties


Links are made throughout our lives. I connect with you and you connect to me - a link. Repeat to infinity. That simplistic concept rules our lives down to the most complex extent. Life is connected in sometimes the oddest ways with these links and it often seems that it is the links that define the road we travel. Now enter empathy into the equation. All the links that seem obvious become, ...well, not. Empathy is the missing link between some people. It can be the defining difference that can change our lives and set those we are connected to off to different paths. If you use your empathy wisely in your life, it can be good. But if you succomb to empathy, it can become a series of "I don't want you to hurt." This is usually good if the same will be reciprocated. But what if it is not? Does the "save yourself button" get turned off? Are you always trying to save someone else of the hurt and not yourself? The reality for a person feeling empathy is that you can never save yourself the hurt. Because in thinking about any situation, even for a second, you feel the other persons feelings.

So there can only be two separate existences - that will never touch. No link .

http://www.eqi.org/empathy.htm